Some Simple Rules to the HOH - by T Ross

Once the submissive woman honors her HOH with her vows of submission and obedience, most HOHs feel as Gods. "The world is mine, I decide everything in my family. I got the power". In other words, she gives Him everything. He gives her nothing, but His love and carring. In true DD Lifestyle, as I see it, it´s not exactly this way. HOH must have the conscience that His wife even in submission has some thoughts and desires. They have tastes and it would be good if they felt they have a man besides them, worried with their tastes and needs. According to a non-oficial research I did myself, here is a list of small HOH duties that will make your submissive woman happier and loved. 1- Keep your body always clean. Use the shower with some frequency and give more value to perfums. Women just love that stuff. 2- Most of women are obligated to keep their bodies shaved. This condition develops on them the taste for hairless bodies. In order to make them happy it would be useful if the HOH would ask His wife to shave His body the same way. It would be hot and they would love to serv you that way. 3- Submissive woman always walk around the house in the nude so they can be at service at anytime they are required by the HOH. I suggest to the HOHs to walk around on their underwear, barechested. It will provoke on them the desire to have you. Many submissive women will respectfully ask for sex if they see you that way. 4- As her HOH, make it clear that you are ready to hear what she has to ask even if it is a punishment. Once she communicates she wants to ask you something, she must kneel in fornt of you, hands over her head with total eye contact. 5- For healthy and hygienic reasons you and your submssive wife must give each other enemas at least once a month. Another erotic opportunity to get more intimate. Paciently teach her how to proceed and ask her to give you your enema first. She will worry about the time, the amount of liquid going inside of you, your belly and how you are feeling. Then it will be your time to do it the same way. A great way to put away some limits. Well that´s it for now. HOHs do it that way and you will notice the difference in no time.

Symbols of Submission - by T Ross

When a couple starts a relationship, so many symbols are used to show how much they love each other. The bride´s white dress symbolizes her purity, meaning she is still a virgin, ready to be taken by her husband. The rings changed by each other mean how laced they are and how compromised with their marriage they are. Rings itself obligates the couple to love each other even if omit when love goes away. Yes, sometimes, love will leave and sadness or regrets take place. The couple may split and give another try or keep their unhappiness forever, til death do you part. In a few words, most regular marriages go through this process today, but no those where Domestic Discipline is practiced. Not Domestic Discipline ones. In DD love happens with a different perspective: (first) if I´m marrying you it´s going to be you forever, whatever happens. This is possible only because every one assumes their position in a marriage. Men are dominators and strict rulers, controllers, guiders, punishers, loving and caring. Women are submissive, obedient, controllable, guidable, used as servants, loving and caring. Note that some items are the same in both. Others are completely different. And what symbolizes that? 1- In DD the name of the man must be written in capital letters and the woman´s name in regular lower case letters. 2- The submissive wife must ask her HOH for a leather leash with his name on as a symbol of her eternal obedience and submission to Him. This is the sign by which she is honoring him with her submission forever. But she must be free to require it. She must feel from inside she needs it from her HOH (some deeply submissive women without a HOH feel they need it so badly to wear a collar that they decide to ask their mentors the right to wear one with his name on, proving once again how compromised they are on their learnings). Every time a woman asks for it, the man must feel honored as a HOH as much he will be proud of her submission. And she will be delighted to wear it and show the world his name on her neck forever. 3- She must be in charge of her punishment implements too. Belts, paddles, canes, brushes, all of them named with HOH´s name on them. She must clean them constantly in order to keep them completely available for use whenever is necessary. 4- Being naked around the house all the time is another symbol. A symbol that means that the submissive woman is ready for her husband, no matter what are his needs: for sex or to pleasure him at anytime. To be inspected or just to serve him as he wishes. Most HOHs prefer their wives to walk around the house with their legs slightly opened to have the sensation of availability from their wives. 5- Shaving her private parts and keeping them clean are important symbols of how much the submissive wife loves her HOH to keep herself always ready for him. 6- For a reason of hygiene (but not only that, couples who need to increase intimacy to each other often do it too), some couples frequently give enemas to each other. Most HOHs prefer some enema rituals to give and receive enemas. Usually the HOH goes first, having all the attention of his wife to take care and protect him. After He is done, she will take her enema, given by her HOH. aThis is a simple example of how a couple can get focused on each other by all means. An enema may take from 30 minutes to 1 hour and it´s a time dedicated by both of them to both of them. DD couples should find more time for that. More time to share intimacy, to know every part of each others body better. There´s no limit for intimacy, there´s no limit for sex, there´s no limit for submission and there´s no limit for love. So limitless, that once in a DD lifestyle, most couples will never end living in it.

  

10 REASONS FOR A WOMAN TO CHOOSE SUBMISSION AND OBEDIENCE AS A LIFESTYLE - by ew for Sir T Ross

1) There are many Biblical passages and mandates which require a lifestyle of submission and obedience to a husband. The ones which i am most familiar with are: Titus 2:5 ("To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed"). Ephesians 5:22-24 ("Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord... For the husband is the head of the wife... Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything"). Therefore, such mandates are expected to be followed by all the true Christian believers. However, nowadays such mandates are rarely mentioned or emphasized in church, which may indicate to be issues restricted to the privacy of marriage. My grandmother and parents always referred me to those explicit Biblical passages as being the corner stones of a happy and rewarding marriage. I have read that in other religions (such as Islam), similar mandates are also recognized and followed. My question is how or where can i find out about what is really involved in being submissive and obedient? Is it something which a girl has to wait until she marries? Another question i have is about the statement "submit to their own husbands in everything" -- I assume that the husband will have to be a strong Christian believer and follower, otherwise it could also include polygamy, homosexuality, and other non-Christian aspects. 2) Based on my readings of human biology, i know that there are strong hormonal differences between men and women which are responsible for the physical and emotional differences between them. For example, in contrast to men, women have a nurturing nature, including a need to be protected and cared for. Likewise, the natural roles, instincts, and characteristics of men and women are present even before birth and during childhood. I have learned in my human anatomy classes that when a baby boy is in the womb, the mother can feel much more activity and movement than with a baby girl. Also, right after birth, boys have a stronger tendency to show more aggressive and exploratory behaviors than girls. However, i believe that such natural instincts are dormant and need to be awaken or discovered and developed under the guidance of her parents at home, and later by her husband. Hence, choosing a lifestyle of submission and obedience, brings satisfaction and total fulfillment. Although i have observed my parents and other couples at church interacting with each other, i feel that such role models are the result of much more intimate aspects which i ignore. For one thing, my parents and adult friends at church are always reluctant to talk about it in more detail. Also, when i ask related questions and i expect to get more explicit answers, they tend to be evasive or just refer me to read the Biblical passages (the same is true during the church sermons). One time, a girlfriend and i attempted to seek more information from our teachers in school, and the only response we got was framed within feminist ideas... that we all are free to choose and that a girl can do anything that a man does. 3) Women have a strong inner desire or preference to be under the protection and care of a dominant man. I have had the opportunity to observe older friends who were dating, and i noticed that despite the "harsh" or sometimes relationships which can be termed as "abusive," girls always returned to the same boyfriends. On the other hand, when the boyfriend was of a "soft" nature, girls tended to ignore them and/or seek the attention of more dominant men. I also remember being impressed watching old movies where a "cowboy" type of man spanked his girlfriend in public and private, and eventually she married him expressing her deep love, affection, commitment, and appreciation to him. I must tell you that as a teenager, i have fantasized of being in such a relationship. Over the years, i also noticed that my parents were involvement in a dominant and submissive relationship -- many times i heard at night noises coming out from their bedroom, like my father was spanking my mom, and the next day she was more lively, happy, and willing to be more attentive to my father. Likewise, a couple of times i overheard married ladies talking to each other during our church gatherings about the deserved punishments they received from their husbands, and how they were unable to even sit for several days. 4) In comparing to men, women are smaller, delicate, emotional, have a higher pitch voice, and maintain child-like characteristics into adolthood. I believe that such natural characteristics or differences are (or can be) translated to living in a happy dominant and submissive relationship. For many years i have been babysitting for our neighbors and friends, and during that time i had the opportunity to observe children growing up. While boys grew up in many ways (becoming physically strong, emotionally more assertive, and mechanically inclined), girls tended to expand, emphasize, or retain things which in many ways can be seen as child-like attributes. I remember when i was much younger, i used to get together with my girlfriends to try different dresses, experiment with make up, play with our dolls, and prepare tea gatherings in our toy kitchens. But, when we tried to invite boys of our age, they were totally opposed to join us, and many of them made rude comments and even tried to avoid being with us altogether. Today, it is not difficult to see married ladies living within the traditional values who, in many ways, still retain their child-like characteristics -- i know some who have more elaborate doll houses, depend on their husbands for practically everything, and are proud to maintain their small and feminine figures for their loving husbands. 5) I learned additional arguments in favor of a dominant and submissive lifestyle while taking a course in cultural anthropology, where studies of traditional (non-Western) societies in different places of the world show that men are in charged as decision makers, leaders, protectors, rulers, innovators, and with characteristics similar to our Patriarchal form of family organization. While females are involved in opposite but complementary activities related to taking care of children, meeting the needs of the household, developing their feminine qualities to attract a mate or maintain the family reputation (especially among the Muslim and Arab countries). In many such countries and cultures, the male and female roles and expectations are strongly maintained, even with harsh punishments for those who attempt to change or ignore the rules. A year ago i joined a Christian mission to Bolivia in South America, and i was very impressed with the Patriarchal organization among the native people, where women obey and show great respect to men, know their place, and are proud of their accomplishments as submissive wives, daughters and girlfriends. Unfortunately, wrong influences from our country (which they get through television programs) are negatively affecting those traditional values among the city people. But at least for the traditional rural people, i wonder why we need to send our missions there when they have so much to teach us. Such comparisons also made me concentrate and understand why in our society there are no female scientists, writers, inventors, mathematicians, artists of the same high level of accomplishments as those of men. Hence, as a girl i feel that there is no point in competing with men when i have an equally important (but different) role in life -- that of submission and obedience to my future husband. 6) The natural role of women is to be caring, loving, and dedicated to satisfy the needs of their husbands. Hence, she has to discover, accept, and enjoy her submissive and obedient nature under the control and guidance of her husband. When these roles are broken, men are forced to go out and find satisfaction outside the home. Millions of dollars are spent in pornography and prostitution. Very often, married men are the main customers of such business enterprises because their masculine needs are not met or satisfied at home by their wives. I have seen married ladies who after having their babies they tend to ignore or put aside their husband's needs -- i assume that women are in need for a constant discipline and encouragement (is the saying "a woman's work is never done" true?). For example, I have read somewhere that one of the most import desires of a husband is to have a wife who is always ready to make love anytime. My question is, why this is an issue? Why wives need to be reminded or trained to be available any time? The other issue i often hear is about married women who loose over time their interest in being attractive and taking care of themselves. Would these kinds of problems not exist under a dominant and submissive lifestyle? 7) A successful marriage and family depends on recognizing the need for a God-giving authority of the husband as the Head of the Household. In this respect, i can make a comparison with large companies or business corporations, where only one leader or head is absolutely necessary and required to lead a successful organization. In the absence of such an authority, only chaos, conflict, and mismanagement can be expected. Likewise, i assume that when women compete for authority, men loose their manly attributes to lead and control, and the lack of respect can lead him to become isolated and depressed, and eventually seek a solution in divorce. I also believe that men too are to blamed, especially now when feminist influences have made men become less involved (or afraid) to established their natural rule or role over women. For example, i often find ridiculous or inappropriate to see husbands taking care of the household chores, and even cases when the wife works and the husband becomes a "housewife." Likewise, i wonder how husbands and wives can justify or accept the fact that when the wife works outside the home, she is obeying and following the mandates of another man (the boss in the company where she works). 8) All through the ages and within the traditional Patriarchal values, it has been established a system which has endured over time, that a girl first belongs to her father, then to her husband. I believe that such an enduring system of family organization is and has been one of the main cornerstones to maintain the family as the main group of our nation and society. I also believe that this system has served well to train and awake the natural instincts of hundreds of generations of women and wives withing the traditional values and believes. I remember how difficult it was for me to accept the rules established by my father when i was growing up. For example, my two older brothers had much more freedom, while i was constantly protected, had to ask permission for practically everything i wanted to do, i had and continue to follow curfews, i was not allowed to come home late or be alone in public, i was required to help my mom with all the house chores, and any indiscretions or mistakes were corrected with spankings and corner time. I always wonder why i was treated so differently from my brothers? and am i right in assuming that similar restrictions and discipline will be expected when i get married? 9) The physical, mental, and emotional well being of men and women depend on maintaining the dominant role of men, and the submissive role of women. It is clear to me that these aspects are related to the natural instincts and God-giving commands indicated in my previous reasons. However, i still need to know in more explicit and clear ways what would be expected of me as a future submissive and obedient wife. Based on my experiences while growing up, i have learned that the different and complementary roles of both men and women are important, but i do not understand yet why girls and women require or need far more instruction and control in life. A related question is, are men more important and with greater needs than women, and that is why women require constant discipline and control? I know that just before and during my menstrual periods i have a tendency of feel irritated, lack patience or energy to make decisions, have a stronger need to be protected, and i often have to postpone my activities during those times of every month -- while at the same time, men are free from those experiences or limitations. The same can be said during pregnancy, but i do not know how a wife could satisfy the needs of her husbands during the nine months. A lady at church once told me that "a man becomes more masculine only when his wife is feminine and submissive"... but still need guidance and instruction to accomplish those goals. 10) The sad situation today is the fact that more than half of marriages are ending up in divorce, children are growing up without the benefits of being nurtured by both parents, and all the conflicts between men and women at home and the work place. I believe that such problems were created by the introduction of feminist ideas, and women moving away from the traditional values and expectations. I have seen so much of the feminist influences being taught in my public school and liberal college. For example, recently, after attending a required conference on "sexual harassment" at my college, i realized how difficult it must be to be a man nowadays -- i was amazed after knowing about the many restrictions and limitations about what a man can do or say in the work place, to the point that men are loosing their authority and respect. On the other hand, i see that the economic situation has forced wives to work outside the home. But, I wonder if two incomes are really necessary in most cases -- such as those who maintain two houses and "need" to have three or four cars and expensive cloths. At the same time, i also feel that so much of our economy is devoted to expensive wars abroad, and there is so much greed and mismanagement on the part of corporations who are also closing factories in our country and moving away to more profitable places of the world. I was very surprised when i read that 40% of the war in Iraq is being financed with loans from China! In conclusion, i only see these solutions to the grave problems in our country, to return to the traditional family values, re-institute the authority of men at home, and devote more attention to the economic needs of families so that wives would not have to seek jobs outside the home.

Naked at Home by T Ross

   

Other basic rule that every HOH appreciates his submissive wife to follow is to remain naked all the time at home. Been naked can teach so many lessons to the submissive women. First it´s a way to feel exposed, fragile. Forced to be naked all the time, the submissive wife will take double care with her body and will always try to be beautiful in front of her HOH without the accessories women usually wear to attract their men, such as make up, high heels and others. The woman must remain totally naked wearing absolutely nothing. This rule makes her to be in touch with her body and will teach her how to be attractive to her HOH with no usual artificial accessories. Once naked she must be prepared for sex at any time or even a submission spanking whenever her HOH finds it necessary. She must be ready for regular inspections too. Inspection means that at any time HOH can tell her to spread her legs and inspect her intimate area for hygiene. Most of HOHs don´t like to see their wives not shaved. If that´s your case, double your attention on this area to avoid any kind of spanking discipline regarded to intimate hygiene. But there´s another side that no one talks about: how must a HOH dress while at home? Please send your suggestions bellow.

  

Calling Sir - by T Ross

One of the first basic rules to be established as soon as a couple decide to live under DD-Lifestyle is the rule of calling HOH by Sir. It may sound antique and out of fashion (and maybe it is) but calling HOH Sir helps the submissive woman to find her place in the relationship. Calling her husband Sir reminds her everytime her position on the marriage and reinforces her submission before Him. By calling Him Sir the submissive woman will learn how to respect her HOH in the first place. It´s a sign of deep respect and a way for her to know that He may not be always available to her. Respectfully calling her Husband Sir, the submissive woman is asking for His attention and it´s His decision to listen what she has to do or not. Some HOHs may keep this rule inside home so no one else will know they live in DD-Lifestyle, but there are HOHs who want to be called Sir wherever they are and in front of anybody, no matter who. This will require some kind of explanation or at least will provoke some back arguments, but who cares? The important thing is to keep the submissive woman interested on getting more and more submissive to you. Please leave your opinion about this issue bellow.

Expose her in public or not? - by T Ross

Let´s face it: DD Lifestyle is a completly new (refreshed if you will) way of seing things on a marriage. Couples living in Domestic Discipline know that each one has their own place in the relationship. HOHs know they must love, care, guide, decide, discipline and punish their wives. Submissive women know they must love, care and obey their HOHs. Still there are variations depending on personal preferences (most of them coming from HOHs). Anyway, there are HOHs who prefer to keep it low and discipline and punish their wives in a private way as well as there is who prefer to expose her wife to public discipline and/or punishment. The question is: how far can a HOH go on exposing his wife to others? As in most of the questions made about DD LIfestyle, the answer is: it´s up to Him (and his preferences). There are entire families whose grown up kids live in DD. In those cases, I have found out that the preference is to share it all in the family. On those families, women are punished either in private or in public. Some of them enjoy to apply their preemptive discipline in groups (most of the time the women envolved are sisters or close friends). If two or more women commit the same fault they must be punished together. If there´s someone from outside the family offended with their desobedience, this person can be invited to punish the desobedient wife. In the case of travelling out for a couple of days, there are HOHs who prefer to let Their wives to the cares of a brother, father, brother-in-law or even close friend can be chosen to be in charge of her. While the HOH is out, she must consider her host as her HOH. Something like a vice-HOH who is in charge of his friend´s submissive wife while the official HOH is out, with the same rights and duties to the guest submissive woman. Understandable, since we all know that women can be stubborn and desobedient when we are far away. It´s always reccomendable to have someone who we trust to take care of our wives in an emergency or while we are out. I particularly believe that women must be treated like a child most of the time. They are desrespectful, stubborn and desobedient like a child and must be treated like one. Would you leave your child alone if you had to travel, even for a weekend? I wouldn´t. Other advantage of sharing this kind of hard work with your fellow friends is that you always can know what´s been done to her, how she behaved while you were out and how she was punished for it. But there is something I would like to hear from you readers: "must be the HOH host authorized to do things other than discipline and punish your wife? What would that be?" Please comment bellow.

A New point of view - by T Ross

For more than ten years, between researches and interviews about DD Lifestyle with men, women and couples that for some reason were interested in it, just a few times I met people who had their own particular concepts of it other than just live in regular DD Lifestyle. They just increase it with their own ideas and concepts about DD. In those particular cases, people do believe that their simple but efficient way of thinking is really good for them. And I confess that I must agree with them. A few months ago I met a couple that live in DD Lifestyle for quite some time now and adopted a different approach to it, something I had never thought about. Other than living in a normal DD lifestyle, they told me that they trully believe that what they do is good for them. And what do they do? It was summer and Bob and Carol first met in a meeting where all men were dressed with blujeans/barechested. According to their report, she immediately fell attracted to him cause she could see thru his naked chest the man power he carried on himself. As a submissive woman herself, she fell in love for him in no time. They got married, started a DD relationship and told their DD friends and other couple friends about the way they met and how it happened. And their story started to make sense to them. Long story short, they created an informal community where all the people can meet one another men always barechested. This events multiplied the number of couples discovering each other, discovering themselves and most of all descovering DD Lifestyle. Men just on their bluejeans/barechested. I always had the thought that a woman should be totally exposed to her HOHs in order to serve Him when and in the way He tells her to. I keep thinking this way. But this story called my attention when I look by the woman´s side, I find it extremely positive if the submissive woman can have the opportunity to have more contact with her HOH barechested body: this way He is showing her how strong He is, who is in charge of things, who guides and who makes the decisions. By seeing constantly her HOH with His chest naked, a woman can learn much more about her submission as well as her HOH power over her. If the HOH (at least at home) exposes himself to His submissive woman, He is showing her much more than if He were with His cloth on. Been constantly barechested is a way is a proof of love from HOH to his woman, the true proof of how He loves her and desires her. By the HOH´s side, He can constantly feel how powerful He is and frequently check how respected and loved He is by His submissive wife. Today everyone is invited to their reunions and all men must go barechested as the only rule. I talked to some of my mentees about it and they loved the idea. One of them suggested me to start doing these meetings between DD couples. Another one came up with the idea that men could be on boxers/barechested to increase even more the impact of men´s power over submissive women that attend to it. If looking at a barechested man causes that kind of impact, I can imagine a submissive woman around men wearing just boxers/barechested. They could admire their sexual shapes and experiment for the first time the real power a HOH can transmit to a woman. Anyway, I like the idea. I always like new ideas. Men and women must stop to be hypocrit and must start to give more of themselves expose more of their bodies (in a respectful way thou). Men wish to see a woman´s body as much as they want to see us this way. Just something to think about. Please reply with your critics about this article.

Pornography and the submissive wife - by T Ross

Strict rules in a DD relationship always include restrictions for the submissive wife. Those vary from case to case, according to every HOH way of thinking. Frequently we find rules about using phones, computers, internet, TVs, radio, music, outfits and a huge number of others. What about pornography? Are there any rules about it? Some HOH do not allow their wives to have any contact with porn material at all, and no one can say that this order is wrong. A HOH is never wrong but let´s spend some time thinking about this curious issue, proposed by a couple which I mentor for quite a while now (more than a year and a half). Is porn harmful to the relationship? I requested them a time for clearing that in my mind, once I had never thought about it. After deeply reflecting about it, I came up with the answer: NO. Porn does not cause any bad to a healthy relationship (I´m talking about adult industrial consensual porn, not criminal ones, like pedophilia). The truth is: so many HOHs loose quite some time and patience trying to teach their wives about the right way to proceed during sex. But it seems that it´s particularly difficult for them to learn. Each man likes sex and its variations in different forms compared to others. Each HOH has special needs and fantasies and most women do not have an idea of how to start. They wish to give them pleasure and will do it all in order to reach it, but there´s always something missing: a good teacher. That´s the true in general. Most of women (submissive or not) do not know how to do properly oral sex in a man for starters. A simple oral sex and they can´t perform it the way we like it. To put a penis into her mouth and masturbating it with her hands is masturbating a penis that is into her mouth, not oral sex. Some of us do not realize how better our sex life could be if our submissive wives had where or how to learn it. Porn is that for the job and sounds like a good solution. You can buy it anywhere (including the internet), it´s a cheap product and the benefits for the couple can be huge. I do not defend free porn for the submissive woman. It´s got to have restrictions. HOH must choose, guide and control what to and what not to watch, always according with the way He feels is the best for her to sexually serve Him. Watching indicated porn films may be part of the submissive wife discipline and her development in each issue can be measured by her HOH with amazing frequency (everyday if possible). There´s always space for the submissive woman to improve her sex behavior in order to satisfy her HOH. Some HOHs may choose to watch pornography along with their submissive wives, which is (again) really nice for the relationship to grow up in quality. Been ashamed of watching this kind of stuff together is something that must not exist between a couples and must be banished by the HOH right away. Some may find it disrespectful. Disrespect is a woman watching anything at anytime without her HOH notice. After all, if the submissive woman has no privacy at all, nothing better that stay by her side while porn is going on. Even better. She can watch it naked and on her knees besides her HOH. Many couples already do that. Many don´t yet. Porn has its own value on our lives. I believe it helped (and still helps) solitary people not to get involved with wrong persons and I truly believe that it made a great job when Aids was a major epidemic in the 80s (imagine what would happen to the world if we did not have porn around to avoid sexual relationships). Sexual exploitation of women and cheap sex? Come on, we are in 2010, don´t be a pathetic hypocrite in such an important issue for your own sex life. I believe that whatever it is that increases any relationship (DD included) is worth to try. It can work or not (I bet it will). We live and search for sexual pleasure for all our lives. Nothing better than explore all the possibilities. Porn is one of them. Please leave your comments bellow.