Strict rules in a DD relationship always include restrictions for the submissive wife. Those vary from case to case, according to every HOH way of thinking. Frequently we find rules about using phones, computers, internet, TVs, radio, music, outfits and a huge number of others. What about pornography? Are there any rules about it? Some HOH do not allow their wives to have any contact with porn material at all, and no one can say that this order is wrong. A HOH is never wrong but let´s spend some time thinking about this curious issue, proposed by a couple which I mentor for quite a while now (more than a year and a half). Is porn harmful to the relationship? I requested them a time for clearing that in my mind, once I had never thought about it. After deeply reflecting about it, I came up with the answer: NO. Porn does not cause any bad to a healthy relationship (I´m talking about adult industrial consensual porn, not criminal ones, like pedophilia). The truth is: so many HOHs loose quite some time and patience trying to teach their wives about the right way to proceed during sex. But it seems that it´s particularly difficult for them to learn. Each man likes sex and its variations in different forms compared to others. Each HOH has special needs and fantasies and most women do not have an idea of how to start. They wish to give them pleasure and will do it all in order to reach it, but there´s always something missing: a good teacher. That´s the true in general. Most of women (submissive or not) do not know how to do properly oral sex in a man for starters. A simple oral sex and they can´t perform it the way we like it. To put a penis into her mouth and masturbating it with her hands is masturbating a penis that is into her mouth, not oral sex. Some of us do not realize how better our sex life could be if our submissive wives had where or how to learn it. Porn is that for the job and sounds like a good solution. You can buy it anywhere (including the internet), it´s a cheap product and the benefits for the couple can be huge. I do not defend free porn for the submissive woman. It´s got to have restrictions. HOH must choose, guide and control what to and what not to watch, always according with the way He feels is the best for her to sexually serve Him. Watching indicated porn films may be part of the submissive wife discipline and her development in each issue can be measured by her HOH with amazing frequency (everyday if possible). There´s always space for the submissive woman to improve her sex behavior in order to satisfy her HOH. Some HOHs may choose to watch pornography along with their submissive wives, which is (again) really nice for the relationship to grow up in quality. Been ashamed of watching this kind of stuff together is something that must not exist between a couples and must be banished by the HOH right away. Some may find it disrespectful. Disrespect is a woman watching anything at anytime without her HOH notice. After all, if the submissive woman has no privacy at all, nothing better that stay by her side while porn is going on. Even better. She can watch it naked and on her knees besides her HOH. Many couples already do that. Many don´t yet. Porn has its own value on our lives. I believe it helped (and still helps) solitary people not to get involved with wrong persons and I truly believe that it made a great job when Aids was a major epidemic in the 80s (imagine what would happen to the world if we did not have porn around to avoid sexual relationships). Sexual exploitation of women and cheap sex? Come on, we are in 2010, don´t be a pathetic hypocrite in such an important issue for your own sex life. I believe that whatever it is that increases any relationship (DD included) is worth to try. It can work or not (I bet it will). We live and search for sexual pleasure for all our lives. Nothing better than explore all the possibilities. Porn is one of them. Please leave your comments bellow.
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