Expose her in public or not? - by T Ross

Let´s face it: DD Lifestyle is a completly new (refreshed if you will) way of seing things on a marriage. Couples living in Domestic Discipline know that each one has their own place in the relationship. HOHs know they must love, care, guide, decide, discipline and punish their wives. Submissive women know they must love, care and obey their HOHs. Still there are variations depending on personal preferences (most of them coming from HOHs). Anyway, there are HOHs who prefer to keep it low and discipline and punish their wives in a private way as well as there is who prefer to expose her wife to public discipline and/or punishment. The question is: how far can a HOH go on exposing his wife to others? As in most of the questions made about DD LIfestyle, the answer is: it´s up to Him (and his preferences). There are entire families whose grown up kids live in DD. In those cases, I have found out that the preference is to share it all in the family. On those families, women are punished either in private or in public. Some of them enjoy to apply their preemptive discipline in groups (most of the time the women envolved are sisters or close friends). If two or more women commit the same fault they must be punished together. If there´s someone from outside the family offended with their desobedience, this person can be invited to punish the desobedient wife. In the case of travelling out for a couple of days, there are HOHs who prefer to let Their wives to the cares of a brother, father, brother-in-law or even close friend can be chosen to be in charge of her. While the HOH is out, she must consider her host as her HOH. Something like a vice-HOH who is in charge of his friend´s submissive wife while the official HOH is out, with the same rights and duties to the guest submissive woman. Understandable, since we all know that women can be stubborn and desobedient when we are far away. It´s always reccomendable to have someone who we trust to take care of our wives in an emergency or while we are out. I particularly believe that women must be treated like a child most of the time. They are desrespectful, stubborn and desobedient like a child and must be treated like one. Would you leave your child alone if you had to travel, even for a weekend? I wouldn´t. Other advantage of sharing this kind of hard work with your fellow friends is that you always can know what´s been done to her, how she behaved while you were out and how she was punished for it. But there is something I would like to hear from you readers: "must be the HOH host authorized to do things other than discipline and punish your wife? What would that be?" Please comment bellow.

A New point of view - by T Ross

For more than ten years, between researches and interviews about DD Lifestyle with men, women and couples that for some reason were interested in it, just a few times I met people who had their own particular concepts of it other than just live in regular DD Lifestyle. They just increase it with their own ideas and concepts about DD. In those particular cases, people do believe that their simple but efficient way of thinking is really good for them. And I confess that I must agree with them. A few months ago I met a couple that live in DD Lifestyle for quite some time now and adopted a different approach to it, something I had never thought about. Other than living in a normal DD lifestyle, they told me that they trully believe that what they do is good for them. And what do they do? It was summer and Bob and Carol first met in a meeting where all men were dressed with blujeans/barechested. According to their report, she immediately fell attracted to him cause she could see thru his naked chest the man power he carried on himself. As a submissive woman herself, she fell in love for him in no time. They got married, started a DD relationship and told their DD friends and other couple friends about the way they met and how it happened. And their story started to make sense to them. Long story short, they created an informal community where all the people can meet one another men always barechested. This events multiplied the number of couples discovering each other, discovering themselves and most of all descovering DD Lifestyle. Men just on their bluejeans/barechested. I always had the thought that a woman should be totally exposed to her HOHs in order to serve Him when and in the way He tells her to. I keep thinking this way. But this story called my attention when I look by the woman´s side, I find it extremely positive if the submissive woman can have the opportunity to have more contact with her HOH barechested body: this way He is showing her how strong He is, who is in charge of things, who guides and who makes the decisions. By seeing constantly her HOH with His chest naked, a woman can learn much more about her submission as well as her HOH power over her. If the HOH (at least at home) exposes himself to His submissive woman, He is showing her much more than if He were with His cloth on. Been constantly barechested is a way is a proof of love from HOH to his woman, the true proof of how He loves her and desires her. By the HOH´s side, He can constantly feel how powerful He is and frequently check how respected and loved He is by His submissive wife. Today everyone is invited to their reunions and all men must go barechested as the only rule. I talked to some of my mentees about it and they loved the idea. One of them suggested me to start doing these meetings between DD couples. Another one came up with the idea that men could be on boxers/barechested to increase even more the impact of men´s power over submissive women that attend to it. If looking at a barechested man causes that kind of impact, I can imagine a submissive woman around men wearing just boxers/barechested. They could admire their sexual shapes and experiment for the first time the real power a HOH can transmit to a woman. Anyway, I like the idea. I always like new ideas. Men and women must stop to be hypocrit and must start to give more of themselves expose more of their bodies (in a respectful way thou). Men wish to see a woman´s body as much as they want to see us this way. Just something to think about. Please reply with your critics about this article.

Pornography and the submissive wife - by T Ross

Strict rules in a DD relationship always include restrictions for the submissive wife. Those vary from case to case, according to every HOH way of thinking. Frequently we find rules about using phones, computers, internet, TVs, radio, music, outfits and a huge number of others. What about pornography? Are there any rules about it? Some HOH do not allow their wives to have any contact with porn material at all, and no one can say that this order is wrong. A HOH is never wrong but let´s spend some time thinking about this curious issue, proposed by a couple which I mentor for quite a while now (more than a year and a half). Is porn harmful to the relationship? I requested them a time for clearing that in my mind, once I had never thought about it. After deeply reflecting about it, I came up with the answer: NO. Porn does not cause any bad to a healthy relationship (I´m talking about adult industrial consensual porn, not criminal ones, like pedophilia). The truth is: so many HOHs loose quite some time and patience trying to teach their wives about the right way to proceed during sex. But it seems that it´s particularly difficult for them to learn. Each man likes sex and its variations in different forms compared to others. Each HOH has special needs and fantasies and most women do not have an idea of how to start. They wish to give them pleasure and will do it all in order to reach it, but there´s always something missing: a good teacher. That´s the true in general. Most of women (submissive or not) do not know how to do properly oral sex in a man for starters. A simple oral sex and they can´t perform it the way we like it. To put a penis into her mouth and masturbating it with her hands is masturbating a penis that is into her mouth, not oral sex. Some of us do not realize how better our sex life could be if our submissive wives had where or how to learn it. Porn is that for the job and sounds like a good solution. You can buy it anywhere (including the internet), it´s a cheap product and the benefits for the couple can be huge. I do not defend free porn for the submissive woman. It´s got to have restrictions. HOH must choose, guide and control what to and what not to watch, always according with the way He feels is the best for her to sexually serve Him. Watching indicated porn films may be part of the submissive wife discipline and her development in each issue can be measured by her HOH with amazing frequency (everyday if possible). There´s always space for the submissive woman to improve her sex behavior in order to satisfy her HOH. Some HOHs may choose to watch pornography along with their submissive wives, which is (again) really nice for the relationship to grow up in quality. Been ashamed of watching this kind of stuff together is something that must not exist between a couples and must be banished by the HOH right away. Some may find it disrespectful. Disrespect is a woman watching anything at anytime without her HOH notice. After all, if the submissive woman has no privacy at all, nothing better that stay by her side while porn is going on. Even better. She can watch it naked and on her knees besides her HOH. Many couples already do that. Many don´t yet. Porn has its own value on our lives. I believe it helped (and still helps) solitary people not to get involved with wrong persons and I truly believe that it made a great job when Aids was a major epidemic in the 80s (imagine what would happen to the world if we did not have porn around to avoid sexual relationships). Sexual exploitation of women and cheap sex? Come on, we are in 2010, don´t be a pathetic hypocrite in such an important issue for your own sex life. I believe that whatever it is that increases any relationship (DD included) is worth to try. It can work or not (I bet it will). We live and search for sexual pleasure for all our lives. Nothing better than explore all the possibilities. Porn is one of them. Please leave your comments bellow.